Dec 16, 2012
Re-thinking Christmas
For your viewing enjoyment here are some pictures of Christmas trees we have had over
the years.
2004
Those trees were fine. But I
always wanted something GRAND. Beautiful
and sophisticated and Glamorous and Breathtaking. And I couldn't ever do it. My favorite trees at the Festival of Trees
were always the ones with huge ornaments and beauty and grace and a touch of
whimsy. And I bought a few huge
ornaments, but it was never good enough. I
just couldn't accomplish what I envisioned.
And it seemed to be made worse by
my unfinished Family Room, which made me very angry at the room for not being done yet. Stupid Room! It was ruining Christmas!
Richard has long preferred colored lights on a tree. And as inflexible as I am, I finally gave
in, even though they are neither sophisticated nor grand. We have adopted this new method of
compromise when it comes to our tastes and opinions, since we both have
them. We take turns. This year we’ll decorate the tree the way HE
likes it, and next year it is my turn again, etc., etc.
So we put colored lights on the tree. And then started hanging some of our many Christmas balls, but after just one bag full Richard said that was enough. Really? I've got a giant box full of these things. That is all you want? Yeah, he said. They are all just too fancy for him.
So we put colored lights on the tree. And then started hanging some of our many Christmas balls, but after just one bag full Richard said that was enough. Really? I've got a giant box full of these things. That is all you want? Yeah, he said. They are all just too fancy for him.
So then we pulled out the little box of ornaments from down at
the bottom of the Christmas tub, the ones that never get used. The ones that didn't fit into any style or color
theme I ever had going on. The ones I
got from people on my mission. The ones
Harrison made in school and in church.
The ones that have been given to us as gifts in Christmas past. And as we hung them I realized how sad it is
that I've never used them before. I've never even hung my own son’s handmade ornaments on the tree because they didn't match. My dumb stuck-up tree was always
too full of itself to let those who were different into its little clique. What an arrogant, elitist tree!
Then I started thinking how fun it would be to finally make
some of those great handmade ornaments I've seen on pinterest. And how cool it would be to give the boys an
ornament each Christmas as a memento of the year. And with all these personalized, unique
ornaments, our tree could grow with our family and act as a cone-shaped
scrapbook of our life together. Maybe,
just maybe, my tree shouldn't be a symbol of style and sophistication, but of
our family.
This feels very right to me. And was probably obvious to everyone else, but it has taken me 10 years to get here. And I like it. It sits warm deep in my belly and makes the coming holiday feel simple
and exciting. So now I’m thinking the
colored lights might stay.
But now I’m also stuck with Richard having the ultimate say
of what goes on the tree for the rest of the year. Do you think I could talk him into letting us
put a paper chain on it? Maybe a string
of popcorn?
And sometimes they make your house look like a Sci-Fi Disco
Party.
Dec 11, 2012
A Single Act of Kindess
I want to say 2 things.
Right? Do you ever think, “Oh, its snowing. I guess I'm not going anywhere till Spring.” Yeah. Me too. Snow should be enjoyed from inside the house sitting in front of a fire holding a mug of hot cocoa. If that means I am turning into an old lady then fine by me.
2. Sundays are rough. I was gonna make a joke about how maybe that is just me and all of you probably find
it very easy and relaxing, but what is the point? Sundays are rough sometimes and everybody
knows it.
My husband is in meetings all morning so I’m getting the kids ready by myself. Which is fine. Except that I’m still not that good at it. And even with church starting at 11:00, and even if I give myself plenty of time to get ready, just getting my boys dressed and out the door is harrowing, at best.
My husband is in meetings all morning so I’m getting the kids ready by myself. Which is fine. Except that I’m still not that good at it. And even with church starting at 11:00, and even if I give myself plenty of time to get ready, just getting my boys dressed and out the door is harrowing, at best.
This particular snowy morning as I tried to get my boys clothed in a timely fashion my 2-year-old was furious with me
because I insisted on putting his socks on his feet, instead of on his hands where he wanted them. How can they be Batman gloves if they are on his feet? And THEN I had to go and put his belt on his pants, of all the horrendous places,
instead of around his head like a Batman mask.
How could I be so cruel?
Fighting with him is exhausting, and all the while I was still
trying to get the 5 year old to put his own clothes on which was only made
difficult by the fact that he wouldn't stop jumping on the couch. YOU try to get dressed while jumping on a trampoline sometime. It isn't easy. When they were finally dressed and it was
time to put my own shoes on I was ready to crawl into bed.
Knowing that I've first got to scrape the snow off my car so
that I can head to church to wrestle
with my boys for over an hour isn't a really strong
motivator, so I was just trying to bear myself up for the battle ahead as I
grabbed my bag and keys. Then I heard
Harrison shout from outside, “Mommy! Someone’s
helping us!”
I stepped outside to see the man who lives across the street
cleaning the snow off my car. He had
been out shoveling his driveway, had seen that we were getting ready to leave
and had simply helped.
I was very touched, and thanked him and he said, “Aw, you shouldn't have to do this in your church clothes.” He finished cleaning off the car while I
loaded the kids into their seats. And
then I thanked him several times again and we were off.
Obviously I had not been in the best
mood. Obviously I was going to be
horrible company and was not going to get anything out of church and everyone
was going to end the day miserable. But my friendly neighbor changed everything when he decided to do something nice for me, just for the heck of it.
The power of a single act of kindness. It is huge. More far reaching than we are capable of seeing. I could say lots of other things now about its hugeness and far-reachingness, but I want you all to go home and think of your own things to say, and then find someone to say them to, cuz I have to go to bed.
Thanks again nice neighbor! I'm still in a good mood. I think you brightened my whole winter.
Thanks again nice neighbor! I'm still in a good mood. I think you brightened my whole winter.
Dec 2, 2012
Spelling and Singing
The kids and I were just standing out on the porch talking to a neighbor and Harrison got all chatty.
"I am in Kindergarten now."
"I am 5 years old."
"My mom named me Harrison. H-A-R-R. . . I-S. . .O-N."
I started to cry. I didn't know he could do that. I guess somebody is teaching him something.
Colin likes to sing in the car. It is the cutest sweetest thing. Of course I can't catch it on video, because if he has the slightest clue there is a camera around, he stops singing. Yestereday the song went something like this, "Daddy candy meoooow! Grandma caaaat! Me Batmaaan!"
"I am in Kindergarten now."
"I am 5 years old."
"My mom named me Harrison. H-A-R-R. . . I-S. . .O-N."
I started to cry. I didn't know he could do that. I guess somebody is teaching him something.
Colin likes to sing in the car. It is the cutest sweetest thing. Of course I can't catch it on video, because if he has the slightest clue there is a camera around, he stops singing. Yestereday the song went something like this, "Daddy candy meoooow! Grandma caaaat! Me Batmaaan!"
Today in the car Colin was singing again, "Me sing Christmas Song. Mee siing Christmaas Sooong!"
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